Andrea Huls
1 min readAug 11, 2021

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Nikola! As a mom of an almost-two-year-old, I will tell you this: I make time for my friends. It is not frequent, but I plan dinners or lunches, or at worst I ask them to come by my house and hang out.

I consider friends family, which is also why I include them in my child’s life.

Being a new parent is no excuse for being disrespectful. Being a new parent does not grant people the right to not value your time.

I’m the first mom out of my closest friends, and they’re all in a very different place. At times, it’s been extremely lonely. There are many things they can’t relate to.

I don’t have the stamina to party nor the tolerance to have more than one drink. So, this is the other side. Parenting does consume you in more ways than you can imagine.

That said, nothing excuses rudeness or taking people for granted.

I hear your pain because your friends' actions have hurt you. If I have to cancel on someone, I always apologize first and try to make up for it later.

You know your friends best, but I would let them know how you feel.

Friendship is about being honest with each other, taking care of each other, respecting each other. All relationships need our attention, and even though I can’t spend that much time with my friends, when I’m with them, I make it count.

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Andrea Huls
Andrea Huls

Written by Andrea Huls

Writer, documentary filmmaker, photographer, feminist, and mother. I write about mental health, women's issues, UX, and everything in between.

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