How To Raise Confident Children

Andrea Huls
4 min readFeb 27, 2024

Love them furiously, unconditionally, and with deep compassion and empathy.

I’m going to dare generalize here and say that most parents love their children. But, how we love our children matters.

How we show our children love stays with them forever.

It is through love that we can raise confident children.

Confident children don’t need punishment, yelling, or being corrected all the time. We are meant to guide them in this world and give them tools so that they can face challenges with strength and resilience.

We strip our children away from confidence and self-esteem when we yell at them, spank them, or punish them. That’s not how children learn. What children learn is to fear you, not respect you.

Don’t confuse love with being permissive.

Love means setting clear boundaries and limits. Having a routine and rules is good for children. That doesn’t mean that there isn’t room for flexibility and adapting to different situations.

Yeah, confusing. Parenting is tough.

If we are in tune with our children, it gets easier. If we are overwhelmed with our shit, then, parenting becomes harder.

Step 1: Be in tune with yourself

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Andrea Huls
Andrea Huls

Written by Andrea Huls

Writer, documentary filmmaker, photographer, feminist, and mother. I write about mental health, women's issues, UX, and everything in between.