Hi Jessica! I meant to write as soon as I read your piece. You come across as a caring and loving person. I’m sure if you were a mom you would be a great one.

In my late twenties, people began asking when would I have kids, reminding me of my age (as if I didn’t know how old I was). Most people assumed I would be a mother, and it has always bothered me. Comments like this were not only intrusive, but also based on obsolete views of what a woman is or should be. My body, my life, my choice.

I think this piece will resonate with many women who have felt the way you have. The decision to have kids or not have them is personal.

Glad your father opened up to you and that you’ve been able to heal.

A big hug!

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