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Giving Birth on My Own Terms
Almost two months ago, my husband and I welcomed our son into the world. I was 41 weeks and two days pregnant when he was born. From the moment I found out we were expecting, I knew I wanted to inform myself as much as possible about all my options and prepare a birth plan.
It became essential to find a doctor and a midwife that would understand my fears, answer my questions, and respect my wishes.
No one can predict the kind of delivery you will have. Not even your doctor. Several different things can happen when you go into labor: from your body not producing enough oxytocin, to fetal distress, to the baby being breached, to name a few. You must make decisions based on what is best for you and your baby.
Knowledge Is Power
Each experience is unique. However, the more you know about what can happen during labor, the more empowered and comfortable, you will feel to make decisions.
I learned about the complications that can occur and the steps taken in different situations. All of this information made me feel I was better prepared. I was still nervous about giving birth, but I felt that by understanding the stages of pregnancy and labor, I would make the right choices for my child and me.
Giving birth does not have to be traumatic. I know it is for many women, and one of the reasons this happens is because their voices aren’t being heard. In some cases, even if you have done your research and have a birth plan, these might not be respected.
My story is not a horror story, which is why I feel the need to share it. I felt empowered when I went into labor. My wishes were respected the whole time. I was treated like a human being. My voice mattered. There was genuine concern for my well being. Every single doubt I had, even the questions I thought were stupid, were fully answered by my midwife and doctor. At all times, they made me feel that my desire to have a natural birth would be respected. They both wanted me to have a beautiful experience, and I did.
Going Into Labor
At my last appointment with my doctor, a Thursday afternoon, I was told I had dilated 3 cm, had high blood pressure, and irregular contractions. I was in early labor and was sent home…
